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A few more of my photos from Maine . . .

I am now home from an amazing trip to Maine to see one of my best friends get married.  It was an opportunity for me to unplug for a few days and empty out the confusion that has plagued me for the past few months.  Permit me to be sentimental, and share a few thoughts.

1. If you are strong enough to climb a hill, there is nothing wrong with your body.  If you are strong enough to put one foot in front of the other, there is nothing wrong with your body.  If you can breathe, there is nothing wrong with your body.  Your body is an imperfect machine, but it is much, much stronger than you think.  Stop being critical.

2. Being anyone's Plan B is not acceptable.  (Being your own Plan B is even less so.)  If you are not Plan A to the person who is your Plan A, accept this, and go find the person to whom you will be Plans A - Z and beyond.

3. Simply loving someone is not enough to last a lifetime.  It takes so much more.

4. If you can take an honest look at yourself and say that you can flourish and grow more effectively without the person that you love, you do not need to marry this person.  This is hard to see in the moment, true.  If you have your doubts, ask someone to help you learn to be honest.

5. True friends love and support you regardless of what a fuck-up you are.  They accept the fact that you are a fuck-up and will help you through it.  But you have to ask.  You can't expect them to just know that you need them.

6. Take a moment to look around you. You will be amazed at how much you miss when you're too wrapped up in things that won't matter in ten minutes.

7. Unplugging is scary. Unplugging is also necessary to clear your head.

8. If you have never done something, how do you know that you don't enjoy it?

9. Holding hands is a true pleasure.

10. You will get a mosquito bite on your face.  Your iPod will eat your wedding song.  You will get a flat tire, a blister, a sunburn even though it's cloudy.  You will get hurt, abandoned, have your heart stomped on and handed back to you.  You will get through it – maybe not today, or next week.  Pain and disappointment fade over time.